Because of that I experienced the worst hurt of my life. When she got on a jet plane the tears poured out of both of us. Me on the tarmac and her on the plane. She was the most perfect person I had ever known. I have never fully got over it. But, studies show that you are more likely to be happy in the long haul with a person who is not perfect but good enough.
But there is life without love and I know I don't want that. Its not life. Its bare bones sucking existence. Life is better with that rotten mental emotional spiritual soul burning damnation called love. If your start resenting love, then you are walking the tightrope of hatred and could fall down the wrong side like so many have in the middle east.
People should not try to live without love. I have felt the enormous emptiness of losing love and this was compounded by losing many loved ones in a tragedy. There is nothing I hunger more for each day than love, despite the hurt it can cause and that hunger is the only thing keeping me alive. Think not of what love gives you but what love you can give away and it will stop hurting.
Give it to children who need it and old people who are lonely and to anyone who looks sad. You will grow big in the ways of love and it will make you strong and fix the illness it caused with the damned ones who used it burn you.
Be careful who you give your sexual love to because it makes bonds that can heal or hurt depending on who that person is and how they fit into your groove. Get to know your chosen partner well before you hop into it.
Beware of people who do not communicate or reveal their souls or are silent about feelings. They may be the strong silent type or more likely they may harbor attitudes and baggage that can come out later to haunt and hurt. Look into their eyes when they speak. You will see their heart.
Love is the greatest power and the greatest gift we can give for in that giving we will get it back ten-fold.
Jormawankenobe
© 2008 J. Jyrkkanen
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Thank you. I believe in love with my heart and soul. And they both have been on a roller-coaster ride for awhile. I need space and distance, but I haven't found the switch that turns love off and on to allow for that space.
Your comment about the strong silent type, baggage, and looking in their eyes - all of that is what has me so perplexed. I see it in his eyes - the love, the fear, the insecurity. I feel the strength he garners when we are together (not just in the Biblical sense). His silence is what confuses me.
I suppose if it was easy, it wouldn't be worth fighting for.
I have to agree with your view on love.
BUT I have to disagree with that part about
"Beware of people who do not communicate or reveal their souls or are silent about feelings. They may be the strong silent type or more likely they may harbor attitudes and baggage that can come out later to haunt and hurt."
I'm one of those people, and the fact that I know people will forever avoid me for reasons like you mentioned is the primary source of pain in my life. It's not a theory, the advice you gave is the advice most people go by, and it's sad knowing they're kind of scared of you.